Ah, the beauty of female friendships. They’re documented everywhere in pop culture, from television shows such as Sex and the City and the Real Housewives series, to movies such as Mean Girls and Bridesmaids — and it’s not always a pretty picture. Women tend to be emotionally heavy creatures, which local author Nicole Zangara addresses in her new book, Surviving Female Friendships, published by Chandler publisher Brighton Publishing.
The book is a mix of Zangara’s own friendship-related anecdotes, ranging from her experiences in her college sorority to her current female friendships, as well as true tales from ladies of all ages about their friendship journeys. The book delves into situations that might affect friendships, ranging from moving, to dating each other’s crushes, to simple changes in feelings. Zangara talks about how fallouts can affect groups of women and how the portrayal of lady friends in the media is often not accurate. And it preps readers that, even when you think your friendship is going as strongly as ever, everything can come crashing down — without any notice at all.
I was drawn to this book for two reasons: 1) it was written by one of my local peers; and 2) I’m a lady who has experienced my fair share of interesting friendship experiences throughout the years. I, too, was in a sorority and got to witness interesting dynamics among a group of about 90 women during college, and nowadays, like Zangara, I prefer to devote most of my “friendship time” to my few close friends — while balancing the remaining tiers of friendship with everyone from co-workers to friends I’ve made as a reporter and through social media. There is no right way to cultivate picture-perfect friendships where both parties feel 100 percent satisfied at all times, but through the tales she presents, Zangara tries to arm readers with techniques to strengthen their bonds.
The book is a fun and quick read, written in first-person in a conversational tone. I enjoyed reading it because, as a perfectionist, I wish I was the perfect friend to people — and this book is comforting in that just about any woman has had friendships change even when they did everything right. The book places emphasis on treating friends respectfully and putting in as much effort for your friend as she is doing for you. I also love that Zangara rants on social media such as Facebook as a network that might be doing friendships more harm than good. I, like Zangara, prefer to physically talk to my friends rather than keep tabs on Facebook — it’s interesting how friendship interactions are taking place online more than ever.
If you’re an Arizona lady, I’d recommend you pick up the book. It was only $5.99 for my Kindle Fire, and it’s awesome to be able to support a young local author. For more information on the book, go here.